Used
You ever feel used? I do. I was going to say that being used is usually not that bad; that you get over it; that you sort of deal with it and it doesnt effect you that much. But the truth is, it sucks. No matter which way you slice it, it sucks. I've felt used in the past, and it does effect you, probably more than you think at first.I've felt used recently. This person is never there and always too busy for me, and then the second their life comes crashing in and their friends dissipate, I am supposed to be there...every step of the way. This part alone wouldn't particularly faze me. I mean, I am not opposed to playing the prodigal son's father some of the time, but what really gets me is when I decide not to be there (after being used time and time again), I get thrashed on and dubbed a horrible friend and a guy who doesnt care. What makes it worse is that these things are not only said to my face, but to other people as well, who begin to feel sorry for them and disgust towards me. I feel a bit angry that I would pour so much into a life time and time again, and not only am I not thanked, I am damned as well. I just don't understand the blatant disregard for a shared life in community which expects community but doesnt live in it.
5 Comments:
Wow maybe I should of just walked home the other night and not asked for a ride...just joking man.
I know how you feel and it does suck. Being used sucks. I really sorry that you have to go through this.
Posted by Cole Davis
Sorry you had to go thru it - but hold your head up and never stop trying! There are those who WILL love you for your sharing & caring!
Posted by Mom
Sorry that you feel used, Ryan. That is a really crappy feeling. But regardless of that, don't let it stop you from giving and serving people, because there are those around you that truly need it. And who cares what that person says about you behind your back, because you only have to be accountable to God, and He knows you have done your best. Your true friends will always appreciate you too.
Posted by Anonymous
Hey Ryan
Everyone has gone through this, or will someday, a least once in their lives. All you can do is rise above it and remember who you are are in Christ. People will fail you, that's inevitable. It happens. But, He never fails you and that's what you have to hold onto. What people say is not who you are. What God says you are is your true self.
(2Cor.4:8 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; 9persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 4:16Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.) Don't lose heart because of one person.
Posted by sksrxy
Everything happens for a reason! When God closes a door he opens a window!
Ok, i can't think of any more trite irrelevant things to say. Ryan, I love you. I love you, I love your wife, and I love your mom. And your brother. Yeah and rachel too.
it's interesting man--I know I can totally relate--I've been there. But that's not what this post evoked in me. It evoked a painful self examination and the realization that Im not very available for the people I love--even the people I love the most. What a bummer. I know im not who you're talking about, but forgive me and my busy disregard for the relationship we have. I hope you know how grateful I am for that friendship and the man you've become. I respect and admire you on a level that I don't know if I've even communicated. I thank God for you and your family--and Im so blessed to call you a friend.
Posted by jared